Yes, it is Actually Very Rude

I don't go to the movies a lot, but every once in a while, I do like to spend an evening at the theater. The problem with that is that most of the time, I somehow get a seat behind or near a person who just won't put their phone away. I understand that in this day and age people are nothing short of addicted to their cell phones, but seriously? Can you not last two hours without texting or do you just not care that you're bothering the people around you? If the first, you need help. It's not healthy to be so addicted to a phone. If the latter, get the heck out of the movie theater. You don't deserve to be in there. If you just wanted to text, there are plenty of places you can do that without bothering anyone. Like your bedroom.

Look, people, there is a reason that movie theaters ask that you turn off your cell phones during the movie. They ask that so you don't bother the people in the room who are actually there to watch the movie they payed to see. No one came to watch you play on your phone. It's so rude.

Now, I know that using your phone during a movie when you've actually been asked not to use it doesn't bother some people. But, there are also a lot of people that it does bother. I happen to be sensitive to light and when there is a tiny bright light just randomly appearing in a dark room it's very distracting and bothersome. It's really distracting having a bright light appear somewhere that is not the screen. I mean, seriously, I'm trying to watch a movie and your phone isn't even supposed to be out. If you don't want to watch a movie, why do you even go? If you would rather text, why don't you just stay home? No one will care that you aren't there. In fact, it would make the evening more enjoyable not to be bothered by your texting addiction.

Even if you think people don't notice that you have your phone out, they do. Even if you try to hide it by holding it really low or turning it away, it's pathetically obvious what you're doing and you're not fooling anyone. We are still bothered by the light. 

I can understand that if something really important is going on that you have to keep up with and you're communicating by phone, then you need to be using it, but, if that's the issue, you shouldn't be at the movies. And, really, during a movie, if you feel like you need to get your phone out and text someone, why don't you just go out into the hall and text? You can come back in when you've finished and you won't have bothered anyone. If you want to be texting continuously through the entire movie, though, you need to leave. Just get out. If you have that little respect for people, you should not be in public places.

When someone has their phone out, it's really distracting and I have a harder time enjoying the movie I'm trying to watch. Seriously, why can't you just wait? Is it really that hard? If the movie is boring either leave or sit there and wait until it's over without using your phone. Just because you find it boring doesn't mean everyone else does and they would rather watch you text.

Some people might think that I'm being a little ridiculous but I don't care. This is one of my pet peeves and this blog is about me and what I think. Some people might be thinking "if it bothers you so much then don't go to the movies because no matter what you say, people will always use their phones in movie theaters." Well, if that is what you are saying, here is my response: I should not have to stop doing something that I like to do because some people just don't have any common courtesy or don't know how to behave in public. The movies are for people to go and watch movies not for people to sit in a dark room and text. The people who are texting are the ones who shouldn't go to movies, not the people who are actually going to the movies to watch a movie. They need to know that they are bothering people even if they think they aren't. When I go, I expect that people will be mature enough to follow the rules of the theater and understand that texting during a movie bothers people in the audience. But, apparently, that is too much to expect from adults and teenagers who are certainly old enough to know social etiquette.

Look, texting during a movie is pretty much exactly as distracting and bothersome as answering a phone call during a movie. Don't be that person. Just don't.

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I'm serious here, people. And I'm not the only person who thinks this way. Go to YouTube and look up what the Alamo Drafthouse has to say about people who text during movies. Every theater should be like them. Texting during a movie is rude and disrespectful to every other person in the theater.

Come on, people. I dare you not to use your phone for two hours. Or is that too hard?

Real Beauty

Well, here goes my first opinionated post. I guess the wait wasn't too long. I hope it's worth it.

So, recently, I was on Youtube (I know, who goes there anymore?) and I was, like everyone does, watching a video. This video was of a young lady singing a cover of a song that she liked. Well, suffice it to say that this young lady did not meet the standards that society has set for someone to be deemed beautiful and she is not the best singer on Youtube. Because of this, she was receiving some of the most disgusting, vile and downright cruel comments I have ever seen in my life. Some of them I won't even repeat because it would hurt my dignity but some of the more mild ones (and I use the word "mild" EXTREMELY loosely) were along the lines of "Kill it before it lays eggs!" She was called a "thing" and "fat" and "ugly" and "disgusting."

If there had only been one or two comments of that nature, I would have just left it alone. I would have just thought them poor idiots who probably weren't loved enough in their childhood. But it was almost EVERY comment. She was being grossly cyber bullied. One or two people (out of the thousands that had posted) were standing up for her, and I was very proud of them, but the amount of hate she was receiving by cowards who were only acting that way because they could hide behind a computer was making me sick to my stomach.

Well, that made me want to say something. I didn't want to just sit there and watch it. I posted in her defense, and suddenly, I'm the bad guy. The bullies turn on me, attacking me for coming to her defense. It was just sad. They kept justifying their bullying by saying she was ugly. They acted like if they could only get me to understand that she was "ugly" and "disgusting" then I would be okay with them treating her like she was some sort of vile creature not worthy of life or respect instead of a young lady posting a video of herself singing a song just like thousands of other people. I'm okay with cowards bullying me over the internet because I just don't care what bullies think, but I don't like watching them hurt other people and acting like only pretty people deserve kindness and respect. Those people are SO shallow. Please don't be one of them. They are half of what is wrong with this world.

I think people who society claims aren't pretty should be able to post videos of themselves on the internet without worrying about being bullied. Is that too much to ask?

It makes me so sad for this girl. We don't know anything about her. If she was or is struggling with self esteem issues, the comments she receives will only make everything worse. I can't believe that there are people in this world who just care about appearance. It makes me sick. I pray that she never sees those nasty comments but she probably will.

I would like to say to all the people who are nasty to those they don't deem attractive: you have no idea what real beauty is. None whatsoever so don't even go around telling people who is and is not ugly. Real beauty is not on the outside and from what I saw, that young lady was more beautiful than every single person posting negatively about her. Real beauty does not come from how you dress, what makeup you wear, what you do with your hair or how much you weigh, it comes from the way you treat others. And the way you people were acting is the definition of ugly.

Now I see why young people hurt themselves. They cut their hair, change their style, even become anorexic or bulimic because they think there are certain ways they have to look to be accepted by people and it's a sad, sad thing that they are right. They shouldn't be right.

And tell me, even if you do think the girl ugly, what is bullying her over the internet going to do? Does it bring you personal satisfaction to put others down?

Cyber bullying is never okay. People have killed themselves over it and even if it's a stranger, your words can still hurt. I hope people will see how very wrong it is to be cruel to people just because they don't meet the social standards of beauty. There is nothing wrong with looking different. But telling people they are disgusting and should be killed just because people don't think they are pretty? That is what is really disgusting and ugly. Don't be a bully, be a friend.

What's the Deal?

Okay, sit down and buckle up. You're going to hear the real truth from me and, sometimes, it won't be pretty. The fact is, I'm an opinionated person and since this is my blog, it will be full of my opinions. If you don't think you can handle that, I suggest you go pick out a nice picture book to read instead.

Generally, I will be posting my opinions about life, the universe, and everything. If you want to know some specific topics I will be addressing, you will have to stick around and read my posts because even I don't know exactly yet. I will post when I have something to say, when I see something that I would like to share my opinion on.

Now, you may be asking yourself, why should I care what you think? The answer to that is how should I know? Before you ask why you care, ask if you care. Only you can figure out if you care what I think and why you care. If you don't care, then why are you still here?

You may now be asking if I am going to be harsh in my opinions. Well, yes, when the situation calls for it. Sometimes people are harsh and that's okay. You know what they say, though: if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. 


You're getting a fair warning here, alright? I'm telling you right now that if you want just puppies and kittens all the time, you are in the wrong place. This isn't that sort of blog. This might offend you sometimes. I won't intentionally offend you, but I can't promise that you won't take something the wrong way.

Everyone has their opinions and everyone has the right to voice them and be heard. Voicing my opinions is all I am doing here. You can disagree and hate me or agree. And just like I have the right to voice mine, you have the right to voice yours. Feel free to let me know what you think. I guarantee you won't change my mind, but I am open to hearing the thoughts and opinions from others.

That's basically what will be going on here. I don't know when the first official opinionated post will be up, so if you have any interest in seeing what my blog will like, feel free to stick around. Just don't say I didn't warn you.