Bullied To Death - And After Death

You know I hate bullying. I have two previous posts about how terrible I think it is. I'm sad to say that this is yet another post about bullying. I don't mean to keep posting about it, but things keep happening that I can't just ignore. This post is going to be a little different, though. This post is about Amanda Todd's story. If you are not familiar with her story, watch the video posted below.

This girl, Amanda Todd, ended up killing herself. No other bullying story I have addressed ends with the victim committing suicide. I hope that this shows people how serious bullying is. Though I hate what she went through and am terribly upset with the people who treated her that way, I am mostly going to address how people are responding to the story. Yes, I will talk about what happened to her but I am mostly discussing what people are saying about her now and what is currently happening because it makes me sick to my stomach.

Many, many people feel sympathy for Amanda and are treating her memory with respect, which is very admirable and those people make me proud. Those are the sort of people we need in this world. If you are among that group of people, thank you so much. You are amazing. The rest of you, however, should be downright disgusted with yourselves. I am disgusted by you.

Why is that, you ask? Anyone who takes a story of someone's suicide and turns it into a joke, something to laugh at and not be taken seriously is someone who does not deserve the tiniest amount of respect and will get absolutely none from me. If you are one of those people, shame on you. You are among the lowest of the low.

You would be surprised how many people are doing this. Her story has become an internet joke which makes me ashamed of my country and fellow human beings. Sometimes I really hate people. Some people have written the most vile things about her, saying that we shouldn't care that she's dead because she made some bad choices. How messed up that? You shouldn't care if someone lost their life because they weren't perfect? If we all lived by that rule, no one would ever care if someone died. She doesn't deserve sympathy or respect because she did things that were wrong? What a stupid thing to think. Amanda was just a child, barely in high school. If you saw the video, all she really wanted was a friend. She was all alone and was desperate for someone to notice her and be friends with her, so, yeah, she made some mistakes because people were treating her nice and like they cared about her. Later, those people turned out to be jerks, but that's not her fault.

What really shocks me is that she makes a couple of mistakes and gets more hate than women who sell their bodies and do extremely immoral things on a daily basis. She is getting more hate than the men who used her. More hate than the guy who sent her picture around the internet.

I am not exaggerating about the hate. Just look at some of these comments from Youtube. Don't worry, I will not post their usernames even though they don't deserve that much consideration. I am going to dash out all the curse words because some people don't think they can get their point across without using them.

"Aww boo fooping who. She did it to her slef she was stupid for doing it maybe instead of  ----- about it she could have forgotten now look she's dead and people treat her like some hero she brought it all on her slef. I have no pity for stupidity."

 ".....this girl isn't the angel all these people try and make her out to be. Of course she didn't deserve to die, but she certainly doesn't deserve attention or respect."

"......she decided to flash people. She brought it all upon herself. She doesn't deserve any empathy."

"So the real question to ask is, why does this girl deserve any more attention than the guy that died as you read this comment?"

"I hope she rots.It's what she deserves."

"----- is dead. She deserved it. Hope she's rotting in hell."

"One mistake? Her whole life was a mistake. Glad she died."

I'm dead serious when I say that these aren't even the worst of the bunch. If you authored any of theses disgusting comments then you probably should re-evaluate your life. You make yourself out to be something of horrible jerk that doesn't deserve any respect. 

Look, sometimes people make mistakes and do things that they shouldn't do. Even you. But does that mean that they lose all respect as a human being and their life isn't valuable anymore? Does that mean that we don't need to care that if they take their own life? Does that mean that people are idiots for caring? Does that mean we don't need to care if they were bullied? No. Not at all.

No one who has died deserves more or less attention than another dead person, but it doesn't mean it's wrong to care and let people know that you care, especially if you are aware of their death. So, in response to the person who wrote: "why does this girl deserve any more attention than the guy that died as you read this comment?" She doesn't. But I am aware of her death and I care about her. Therefore, I am giving her some attention because I think she's important and deserves sympathy and respect. Tell me the name of the guy who died while I read the comment and I will show sympathy and respect for him, as well.

So, you may be asking, you saw a couple of idiots posting comments on youtube and that means everyone's an idiot? No. I wish it was just a couple of jerks posting their opinions on it, but that's not it. It's that plus the people who thought it would be funny to make internet memes about her. I mean, if that doesn't illustrate how disgustingly low and immature people are then I don't know what does.

Don't believe me? Here are a few of them.

 Again, these are not the worst of them. I couldn't bring myself to post the most horrible ones that I saw. If you made a meme like this, or you even think they are funny and/or clever, you are an embarrassment to society.

If you don't care about Amanda Todd or you take pleasure about laughing at the suicide of a 15 year old girl, or you think that caring about Amanda means that we don't care about anyone else who has died, you have a lot to learn. Just because I care about Amanda Todd doesn't mean I don't care about other suicide victims or anyone else. It's possible to care about them all. I don't know why you have to compare her death to other ones and us it to justify your cruelness, that's plain sick. Caring about this young girl does not mean I don't care about anyone else.

What this all goes down to is bullying. Bullying is wrong and it's very serious. It's wrong to bully people while they're alive and it's wrong and sometimes even more vile and disgusting to do it after they've died, which is what is happening right now. Why can't society grow up and mature to care about a young, fifteen year old girl who was viciously attacked for things that many, many people have done, who was so lost and alone that the only way out she saw was suicide? Why can't we care about her? Why can't some people be less of a monster? Why do you have to show everyone what a terrible excuse for a human being you are?

If you got bullied and then killed yourself, would you want people making internet memes about you and laughing about your death? I didn't think so. That is so disrespectful.

I am very interested in human psychology and plan on majoring in psychology at the school I attend. Clinical depression is very real and suicide is no joke. You have no right to poke fun at this young, beautiful girl. You have no idea what she went through or what was going on inside her head. All you know is what was posted on the internet. You don't know the whole story.

When people get clinically depressed and have anxiety disorders or panic attack disorders, they can't think rationally. Many times, suicide is the only out that they see. It's psychological, not selfishness. If you can't give her the respect she deserves, if you can't care that she's gone despite her mistakes, if you don't care that she was bullied to death, then you don't deserve respect. You need to understand the psychology of suicide and depression before you go around making judgement calls and making an internet joke out of a dear girls' life. This goes above and beyond what choices she made. This about her life.

For those of you who hate on her and mock her, shame on you. You have nothing to be proud of.


R.I.P Amanda Todd, sweet girl. You are loved and missed. <3

A Letter From an Ex-Witch Writing about Harry Potter: Why That Letter is Nonsense

Most people are familiar with the Harry Potter controversy as it's been around for a long time. It's not as big of a topic as it once was what with all the books and movies having come to an end, but people are still reading them and watching the movies. I decided that, even though it's late in the debate, I would post my opinion about it because it's my blog and I can do what I want.

I'll tell you straight out that I actually used to be on the side of the argument that claimed they were evil books that taught witchcraft but that all changed once I actually read the books. I'm not going to say anything against the people who feel that they aren't good books and use real witchcraft because I used to think that way and I know people who still think that way. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and everyone has the right to voice their opinion.

Now, I'm not going to just go on a tangent about Harry Potter and how it's not evil like some people claim because that would be long and confusing to type out and probably wouldn't end up in any organized fashion. I found a specific attack on the books to which I will be responding. That being said, this post will be longer than my others but bear with me.

I know this article I will be addressing is pretty much old news, but it's still out there for people to read so I wanted to put something out there to sort of beg people not to pay any attention to it.

Before I get into the actual article, there are a couple of things I need to point out about it. First of all, it's titled A Letter From an Ex-Witch Writing About Harry Potter. A lot of you may already know about this letter and know the all the reasons that it isn't credible. I'm not asking anyone to read this. I'm just putting it out there because I want to write my opinion, too. If you haven't read it and would like to so you can follow along with this blog post, just click on the link.

Okay, I'm assuming we all know this, but just to remind you, when reading something like this one should always figure out how reliable the source is. From what I found, the source is not reliable at all. If you didn't notice, the letter has no author listed. We have no idea who wrote this. Someone did but apparently thought it was unnecessary to say who they were which authors and credible people rarely do. That is the first clue that this source may not be one we can trust.

I also noticed that the author (whoever it is) listed no sources at the end of the letter and only mentioned, like, on source in the body that is a film called Harry Potter: Witchcraft Repackaged. I have seen this video and it's as ridiculous as the letter.

This letter is posted on a website called pacinst.com. They got this letter from a website called harrypottermagic.org, and they did link to it but the page no longer exists. I looked around on  pacinst.com and found that it is not a reliable source. There are no names associated with the site, no sources listed on it, just other random articles that look much the same as the one about Harry Potter.

Now we come to the letter itself and what is written inside. Let me just tell you now, I think the whole thing is nonsense from start to finish and there are so many problems with it, we would be here forever if I were to attempt to address them all. And that doesn't include the grammar and punctuation errors. So, I am only going to address the ones I find the most outrageous. 

As I read this letter, I counted at least four times the author mentioned they were a former witch but there could be more. So, what? you may be asking. Well, the issue there is that, really, we don't need to be continuously reminded of the fact. Tell us once, maybe twice, that you were a former witch but when you start reminding us four or five times, you become less credible. I have my doubts that this person was ever an actual witch simply because they said they were a former witch too many times. You may think that is a tad harsh, but think of it this way: if you are talking to doctor, how many times do you need him to mention he's a doctor? Never, right? You'll probably already knows he's a doctor and if he tells you, like, five times throughout the conversation that he's a doctor ("and I know this because I'm a doctor...being a doctor, I think that...well, I'm a doctor, so....") then you might start to think that something was a little odd.

One thing I would like to address is the fact that the author says the books teach witchcraft and are witchcraft manuals. This letter was written when only four of the seven books had been published. I don't know about you, but even after reading all seven books, I couldn't do witchcraft if I tried, so J.K. Rowling is not a very good teacher. After making the accusatory statements, the letter writer says, "I know this because I was once very much a part of that world" (Okay, who else started singing Little Mermaid after that? :D ). The author doesn't know this because he/she has read the books and studied their origins, the author "knows" this because they were, maybe, once a witch themselves. I don't even know if this person has ever opened a Harry Potter book. 


"As a former witch, I can speak with authority when I say that I have examined the works of Rowling and that the Harry Potter books are training manuals for the occult." As someone who has actually read the series, I can speak with authority when I say that these books are a work of fiction and not any kind of manual at all. If they teach anything, it's unconditional and sacrificial love, standing up for what is good and right even when it doesn't seem worth it, the love and power of family and friends and very many other qualities that I would be pleased to see practiced in any individual. But not magic. I didn't see any teaching of that at all. 


This ignorant letter writer barely says anything about what goes on inside the story to prove their point. What they do is pick on the vocabulary. They take a couple of words that they heard were in the story that happen to be real words and use them to try and prove the books are evil. What that proves, however, is that J.K. Rowling researched before writing and I, generally, do not have a problem with that. The words this person mentions are in the series, it's true, but many of them happen to be character names and J.K. Rowling does not define any of them. If she does, it's a definition she made up to fit her story, not the real one. Suffice it to say, many of the kids who read these books are not even going to realize the words are real unless they go look them up, but not many children look up character names to see what "evil" meaning hides behind it.


I almost laughed out loud at the next part of the letter where the author uses the title of the books to support their claim. If they wanted stronger evidence, there are plenty of things they could have pulled out of the story, but, no, they chose to go for the title. Probably because they haven't bothered to read the books. This person actually wrote, "The titles of the books should be warning enough to make us realize how satanic and anti-christ these books are. The afore mentioned title of the first book, "Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone", was a real give away. The second book was called "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets", while the third book was entitled "Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban." Nothing could be more obvious than that Harry Potter books are pure witchcraft and of the devil." If the most obvious piece of evidence this person has is the titles of the books, their argument is even weaker than I originally thought. Titles can be misleading. I could write a book about children who play on the playground while eating some yummy ice cream and getting along and title it I Love Satan if I wanted to. I'm just saying, this person needs a heck of a lot more evidence than the title if they want anyone to think they even deserve to be listened to.

This person goes on to say that having Voldemort being called He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named is evil because in the real occult there is a "nameless one." But, I would like to point out that having a character that people don't speak the name of does not necessarily prove the books are of the devil and teach children witchcraft. J.K. Rowling, even if she does take some ideas from real witchcraft and twist them to fit her story, is not teaching children that these are okay and that they should endeavor to be part of the occult. It's okay to research your writing. That's a big part of what makes it any good. After reading these books, children don't generally go looking to join the occult. They just put them down and pick up a new series to read.

And the part of the letter that says public schools are planning to use Harry Potter magic in schools and become witchcraft training centers??? Yeah, I couldn't keep a straight face at that part, either.

After saying that, the author quotes a verse from the Bible and quotes some of the things that a couple of children have said about the books. Let me pause right here and tell you something: I'm a Christian. I have been for a very long time. I believe the things that God says, and I honestly don't believe that he would hate the Harry Potter books. The Bible verse this person quotes is Acts 19:18-20. All it mentions is that a bunch of people came together to worship God, some of them from the occult who burned their books. That's great. I understand Jesus disapproves of real witchcraft and these were real witches, not Harry Potter fiction. 

The next part, with the children's quotes, is really not that big of a deal. If kids really did say those things, for the most part, it's okay. Often, after finishing an enjoyable book series, kids are still wrapped up in the story and imagine themselves as part of it. This is called imagination and one of the greatest qualities that humans posses. I'm not denying that literature can influence the way we think and what we believe, but, these are children. They are vulnerable. That is why parents need to need to be involved in the things their children are reading, watching and the music they are listening too. If your child is far too easily influenced and can't understand the difference between fiction and reality, maybe they shouldn't read the books. If parents discuss the books with their children, talk about the differences of fiction and truth, discuss the issues, then they can be a part of ensuring that their kids don't turn to a world of evil. I do think the books are intense, though, and I wouldn't suggest that young children read them. But that's not because I think they are evil. It's because some aspects of the story are too dark and tense for little kids.

This letter goes on to say that there are millions of resources available to people who want to start practicing Wicca, and there are. But Harry Potter is not the reason for that. Those sources would be out there without Harry Potter. Anyone who thinks the magic in Harry Potter is similar to real magic doesn't know much about either real magic or Harry Potter, and I think it's safe to say that the author of this letter is ignorant of Harry Potter.

Another reason I am fairly confident that this person has never read the books is what they wrote next: "But is it just fantasy literature like Snow White and Cinderella? In the Harry Potter video, cult expert Caryl Matrisciana points out that in the older stories, evil never prevails." This doesn't help prove their point at all, because, as anyone who has read the books knows because it's extremely obvious, evil doesn't prevail in these stories. Good prevails. Of course, this letter was written when there were only four books, and Voldemort had just returned at the end of it, but, obviously, there was more to come. And, if we're honest, in the real world, good doesn't always prevail. It's not always about who comes out on top, but how the good people behave, what their motivation is and what they believe.

Except for a couple more paragraphs that basically tell us, again, why Harry Potter is evil, the letter has come to an end. After reading it, I was not convinced that Harry Potter was evil, I was convinced that the letter didn't know what they were talking about.

I do believe that people need to be careful about what they read, and if you're too easily influenced, stay away from Harry Potter. But what the book teaches are very good morals and values that are actually very Christian. I'm not saying everyone should read it, but if the reason you're not reading it is because of letters like this one then I would say you might want to give it a chance.

With all that being said, I acknowledge that the time for this kind of post has passed since the debate isn't very prominent anymore, but that letter is easy to find and anyone who has internet can still read it and be influenced by it. I just wanted to put this out there for people so they will be able to see how illogical that letter is if they haven't read the Harry Potter already and are trying to research it to see if they want to.

I hope that this was helpful, and, in all honesty, I do the think the movies place more of an emphasis on the magic than the books do, but I don't think it's enough to lure children into the occult. I don't like the movies, but that's not because I think they're evil, it's because I think they're stupid.

The Ugly Truth

It's been a while since I've written a post, but now I have something I need to say. In my post Real Beauty, I discussed an incident of cyber bullying that I encountered. I am sad to say that this post will also address bullying. This bullying, however, is the type that is done directly to the person's face.

 I am posting about this because of the video recently posted to Youtube of a bunch of middle
 schoolers viciously verbally abusing an elderly woman who happened to be their school bus monitor. This disturbing video is about ten minutes long and if you can bring yourself to watch it, then here it is:

 

 This video has upset me so much. Those are children behaving that way! They are being absolutely disgusting and vile. No human being deserves to be treated that way and I would have hoped that no human being would be so low as to treat someone else that way. But, unfortunately, as we have seen before, some people have gotten it into their tiny, narrow minded heads that bullying people because you don't think they are pretty or worth it is perfectly acceptable. It's done online and it's done to the victim's face. It makes me ashamed of my country. I hate being associated with people like this. The United States is going downhill and the little brats in that video are proof. 

Are children today being taught what bullying can do to people? It sure doesn't look like it. Words can kill, people. And they have killed. It doesn't matter who says them. It can be a close acquaintance or a complete stranger. Words are one of the most powerful weapons in the world. Prove that you're mature enough to use them. Bullying people, whether it's on the internet or to their face, is cowardly and all it does it hurt people and make you look like a disgusting, small, horrible, despicable, immature, cruel, human being. 

This video is all over the place, it has even made the news. I trust these kids will learn a valuable lesson by being characterized as cruel, violent, disgusting monsters nationwide besides the punishments they will receive at their school and in their own homes. But they totally deserve what they are getting. They deserve worse than what they are getting. They should just take comfort in the fact that they did it to themselves. So, kids, I hope bullying that poor woman, who is a better person and more beautiful than all of you combined, was worth it. Someone needs to teach you young, immature boys what real beauty is. Real beauty, as I have said before, does not lie in how you look, it lies in how you treat others. From that video, you have shown the world how very beautiful that woman is and how monstrously hideous every single one of you boys are. I have never seen such ugly little boys in all my life and I hope I never experience the horror of seeing you again.

I hope the parents realize what a disgrace to America their children are and that they are severely punished for their atrocious behavior. If they were my children, they would be in humongous trouble.

In all honesty, though, I almost feel sorry for the little bullies. They are never going to live this down. They will remember it for the rest of their lives no matter what kind of people they grow up to be. We will all remember this disgusting decision for years and years and to come. They are going to be punished by the school and, hopefully, their parents and they've practically been punished by the media. But that is what happens when you're a jerk to your elders, the people you should be respecting, and post it online.

They are just kids, though, and they were acting like kids. They go to a public school were things like that happen all the time. Who knows why they were picking on this woman. Perhaps they are insecure themselves, perhaps they have been bullied, or maybe they just found it entertaining. I think the reason this happened should be investigated, but they have no excuse for that unacceptable behavior. All children need to know that any sort of bullying is off limits and no matter why you do it, you will suffer the consequences and they will be severe consequences. Bullying is one of the most terrible things that people do and this was some of the worst I have ever seen. 

I am horrified and disgusted with this video. Those children, those twelve year old boys, were using language I would hope they wouldn't know. It's a sad thing when you see what society is teaching the younger generation. 

Bullying happens far too much. I was hoping I would only make one post about bullying, but I had to say something about this. It makes me so sad because this situation is similar to the one that I was involved in online. I am assuming the people I was arguing with were older than twelve, which almost makes it worse because they were behaving the exact same way to a complete stranger. 

I admire that woman, whose name is Karen, so incredibly much. She was hurt so badly by these boys. If you saw the end, one of the little bullies said that her family killed themselves because they didn't want to live with her. This woman's husband has died and I believe one of her children committed suicide. I can't imagine the pain she felt when the cruel children were saying that. I am so happy that the media has taken this too attention because she is now being heard, she is getting a chance to speak and there are people out there raising money for her. It's nice to know that there are still kind and compassionate people out there after seeing a video like this. 

In today's society people of all ages bully others and it can be for the simple reason that some people don't think they are attractive. Well, congratulations, bullies. Look what kind of reputation you have built for yourself. Look what people think of you. Not much. Do you really want to be that person?

*****UPDATE*****

I recently saw a news clip on the aftermath of this bullying story. It said that a couple of the boys who had been bullying Karen have apologized to her and so have their parents. They showed one of the statements of apologies from one of the kids who had been bullying her I think it sounded very sincere. I am very proud of the kids who have come forward and apologized because that is not an easy thing to do, especially when you have to do it in front of the entire country. They are only twelve.

The sad thing is now they are being bullied. Their whole families are being viciously attacked by some people because of they way they treated the school bus monitor. That disgusts me. You can't fight fire with fire. Bullying little kids is not going to stop bullying. Stop it. Stop bullying those boys, their parents and their siblings. They have been and are still being punished. The school is punishing them their parents are punishing them and the media has also punished them by talking the way they did about them. I'm sure they are all very sorry about what they did. They are only little kids. Twelve years old. They go to a public school were people get bullied every day. It's not like they were being especially cruel and not acting the way children act. No, I don't condone what they did. It was wrong and gross and I still can barely stand to watch children behave in such a low, disgusting way, but bullying back is the wrong thing to do. Anyone who bullies children is behaving no better than the boys did in that video.

Yes, it is Actually Very Rude

I don't go to the movies a lot, but every once in a while, I do like to spend an evening at the theater. The problem with that is that most of the time, I somehow get a seat behind or near a person who just won't put their phone away. I understand that in this day and age people are nothing short of addicted to their cell phones, but seriously? Can you not last two hours without texting or do you just not care that you're bothering the people around you? If the first, you need help. It's not healthy to be so addicted to a phone. If the latter, get the heck out of the movie theater. You don't deserve to be in there. If you just wanted to text, there are plenty of places you can do that without bothering anyone. Like your bedroom.

Look, people, there is a reason that movie theaters ask that you turn off your cell phones during the movie. They ask that so you don't bother the people in the room who are actually there to watch the movie they payed to see. No one came to watch you play on your phone. It's so rude.

Now, I know that using your phone during a movie when you've actually been asked not to use it doesn't bother some people. But, there are also a lot of people that it does bother. I happen to be sensitive to light and when there is a tiny bright light just randomly appearing in a dark room it's very distracting and bothersome. It's really distracting having a bright light appear somewhere that is not the screen. I mean, seriously, I'm trying to watch a movie and your phone isn't even supposed to be out. If you don't want to watch a movie, why do you even go? If you would rather text, why don't you just stay home? No one will care that you aren't there. In fact, it would make the evening more enjoyable not to be bothered by your texting addiction.

Even if you think people don't notice that you have your phone out, they do. Even if you try to hide it by holding it really low or turning it away, it's pathetically obvious what you're doing and you're not fooling anyone. We are still bothered by the light. 

I can understand that if something really important is going on that you have to keep up with and you're communicating by phone, then you need to be using it, but, if that's the issue, you shouldn't be at the movies. And, really, during a movie, if you feel like you need to get your phone out and text someone, why don't you just go out into the hall and text? You can come back in when you've finished and you won't have bothered anyone. If you want to be texting continuously through the entire movie, though, you need to leave. Just get out. If you have that little respect for people, you should not be in public places.

When someone has their phone out, it's really distracting and I have a harder time enjoying the movie I'm trying to watch. Seriously, why can't you just wait? Is it really that hard? If the movie is boring either leave or sit there and wait until it's over without using your phone. Just because you find it boring doesn't mean everyone else does and they would rather watch you text.

Some people might think that I'm being a little ridiculous but I don't care. This is one of my pet peeves and this blog is about me and what I think. Some people might be thinking "if it bothers you so much then don't go to the movies because no matter what you say, people will always use their phones in movie theaters." Well, if that is what you are saying, here is my response: I should not have to stop doing something that I like to do because some people just don't have any common courtesy or don't know how to behave in public. The movies are for people to go and watch movies not for people to sit in a dark room and text. The people who are texting are the ones who shouldn't go to movies, not the people who are actually going to the movies to watch a movie. They need to know that they are bothering people even if they think they aren't. When I go, I expect that people will be mature enough to follow the rules of the theater and understand that texting during a movie bothers people in the audience. But, apparently, that is too much to expect from adults and teenagers who are certainly old enough to know social etiquette.

Look, texting during a movie is pretty much exactly as distracting and bothersome as answering a phone call during a movie. Don't be that person. Just don't.

<---- Not cool, alright?




I'm serious here, people. And I'm not the only person who thinks this way. Go to YouTube and look up what the Alamo Drafthouse has to say about people who text during movies. Every theater should be like them. Texting during a movie is rude and disrespectful to every other person in the theater.

Come on, people. I dare you not to use your phone for two hours. Or is that too hard?

Real Beauty

Well, here goes my first opinionated post. I guess the wait wasn't too long. I hope it's worth it.

So, recently, I was on Youtube (I know, who goes there anymore?) and I was, like everyone does, watching a video. This video was of a young lady singing a cover of a song that she liked. Well, suffice it to say that this young lady did not meet the standards that society has set for someone to be deemed beautiful and she is not the best singer on Youtube. Because of this, she was receiving some of the most disgusting, vile and downright cruel comments I have ever seen in my life. Some of them I won't even repeat because it would hurt my dignity but some of the more mild ones (and I use the word "mild" EXTREMELY loosely) were along the lines of "Kill it before it lays eggs!" She was called a "thing" and "fat" and "ugly" and "disgusting."

If there had only been one or two comments of that nature, I would have just left it alone. I would have just thought them poor idiots who probably weren't loved enough in their childhood. But it was almost EVERY comment. She was being grossly cyber bullied. One or two people (out of the thousands that had posted) were standing up for her, and I was very proud of them, but the amount of hate she was receiving by cowards who were only acting that way because they could hide behind a computer was making me sick to my stomach.

Well, that made me want to say something. I didn't want to just sit there and watch it. I posted in her defense, and suddenly, I'm the bad guy. The bullies turn on me, attacking me for coming to her defense. It was just sad. They kept justifying their bullying by saying she was ugly. They acted like if they could only get me to understand that she was "ugly" and "disgusting" then I would be okay with them treating her like she was some sort of vile creature not worthy of life or respect instead of a young lady posting a video of herself singing a song just like thousands of other people. I'm okay with cowards bullying me over the internet because I just don't care what bullies think, but I don't like watching them hurt other people and acting like only pretty people deserve kindness and respect. Those people are SO shallow. Please don't be one of them. They are half of what is wrong with this world.

I think people who society claims aren't pretty should be able to post videos of themselves on the internet without worrying about being bullied. Is that too much to ask?

It makes me so sad for this girl. We don't know anything about her. If she was or is struggling with self esteem issues, the comments she receives will only make everything worse. I can't believe that there are people in this world who just care about appearance. It makes me sick. I pray that she never sees those nasty comments but she probably will.

I would like to say to all the people who are nasty to those they don't deem attractive: you have no idea what real beauty is. None whatsoever so don't even go around telling people who is and is not ugly. Real beauty is not on the outside and from what I saw, that young lady was more beautiful than every single person posting negatively about her. Real beauty does not come from how you dress, what makeup you wear, what you do with your hair or how much you weigh, it comes from the way you treat others. And the way you people were acting is the definition of ugly.

Now I see why young people hurt themselves. They cut their hair, change their style, even become anorexic or bulimic because they think there are certain ways they have to look to be accepted by people and it's a sad, sad thing that they are right. They shouldn't be right.

And tell me, even if you do think the girl ugly, what is bullying her over the internet going to do? Does it bring you personal satisfaction to put others down?

Cyber bullying is never okay. People have killed themselves over it and even if it's a stranger, your words can still hurt. I hope people will see how very wrong it is to be cruel to people just because they don't meet the social standards of beauty. There is nothing wrong with looking different. But telling people they are disgusting and should be killed just because people don't think they are pretty? That is what is really disgusting and ugly. Don't be a bully, be a friend.

What's the Deal?

Okay, sit down and buckle up. You're going to hear the real truth from me and, sometimes, it won't be pretty. The fact is, I'm an opinionated person and since this is my blog, it will be full of my opinions. If you don't think you can handle that, I suggest you go pick out a nice picture book to read instead.

Generally, I will be posting my opinions about life, the universe, and everything. If you want to know some specific topics I will be addressing, you will have to stick around and read my posts because even I don't know exactly yet. I will post when I have something to say, when I see something that I would like to share my opinion on.

Now, you may be asking yourself, why should I care what you think? The answer to that is how should I know? Before you ask why you care, ask if you care. Only you can figure out if you care what I think and why you care. If you don't care, then why are you still here?

You may now be asking if I am going to be harsh in my opinions. Well, yes, when the situation calls for it. Sometimes people are harsh and that's okay. You know what they say, though: if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. 


You're getting a fair warning here, alright? I'm telling you right now that if you want just puppies and kittens all the time, you are in the wrong place. This isn't that sort of blog. This might offend you sometimes. I won't intentionally offend you, but I can't promise that you won't take something the wrong way.

Everyone has their opinions and everyone has the right to voice them and be heard. Voicing my opinions is all I am doing here. You can disagree and hate me or agree. And just like I have the right to voice mine, you have the right to voice yours. Feel free to let me know what you think. I guarantee you won't change my mind, but I am open to hearing the thoughts and opinions from others.

That's basically what will be going on here. I don't know when the first official opinionated post will be up, so if you have any interest in seeing what my blog will like, feel free to stick around. Just don't say I didn't warn you.